Stoic Is What?
Stoic is defined as;
a person who can endure pain or hardship without showing their feelings or complaining.Google Dictionary
Is “not showing your feelings” the same as “not feeling”?
I do not think so.
Is it unauthentic?
That, I think, is a personal call.
Since I am sensitive to other people’s emotions, it would be great if being stoic was more of a thing.
These days emotion seem to be used as a weapon.
There is so much shared outrage over small to big things.
If a person feels it, they have a real choice to express their outrage to a wide audience.
Being selective about sharing emotions could be considered responsible.
There is a difference between feeling it and emoting it, but choosing not to express it.
Growing up with a person who did not know how to express anger, but you knew when they were angry, gives me an understanding of emoting feelings.
The silent treatment is an expression of emotion, even if it is not being verbally expressed.
Can a person feel an emotion, recognize the emotion and decide what to do with it, without expressing it?
I think with practice a person can do this. In meditation it is called equanimity.
Maintaining calmness, especially in difficult situations.
Feeling anger towards getting cut off or seeing somebody jump in line is something we all face.
Filling in the backstory of why someone cut in can help ease that anger.
It is a minor annoyance in your day.
Does it really need to impact the rest of it?
How we choose to react to our feelings of anger is all on us.
Maybe recognition of the emotion is enough. Something like this;
“Yeah, that person cutting line sure made me feel angry.
But that is over now and I do not need to feel that anymore.”
By the time you are out the door, you have moved on with your day.
Sounds nice. 🙂
Something to contemplate while training... Cheers!!