Stoic Mindset, Hmmmm

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Stoic Is What?

Stoic is defined as;

a person who can endure pain or hardship without showing their feelings or complaining.

Google Dictionary

Is “not showing your feelings” the same as “not feeling”?

I do not think so.

Is it unauthentic?

That, I think, is a personal call.

Since I am sensitive to other people’s emotions, it would be great if being stoic was more of a thing.

These days emotion seem to be used as a weapon.

There is so much shared outrage over small to big things.

If a person feels it, they have a real choice to express their outrage to a wide audience.

Responsible Emotions

Being selective about sharing emotions could be considered responsible.

There is a difference between feeling it and emoting it, but choosing not to express it.

Growing up with a person who did not know how to express anger, but you knew when they were angry, gives me an understanding of emoting feelings.

The silent treatment is an expression of emotion, even if it is not being verbally expressed.

Can a person feel an emotion, recognize the emotion and decide what to do with it, without expressing it?

I think with practice a person can do this. In meditation it is called equanimity.

Maintaining calmness, especially in difficult situations.

Sound familiar?

Cutting Anger

Feeling anger towards getting cut off or seeing somebody jump in line is something we all face.

Filling in the backstory of why someone cut in can help ease that anger.

It is a minor annoyance in your day.

Does it really need to impact the rest of it?

How we choose to react to our feelings of anger is all on us.

Maybe recognition of the emotion is enough. Something like this;

“Yeah, that person cutting line sure made me feel angry.

But that is over now and I do not need to feel that anymore.”

By the time you are out the door, you have moved on with your day.

Sounds nice. 🙂

Something to contemplate while training... Cheers!!

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Staying Ignorant, Good Plan?

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Ignorant Bliss

Can bliss come from being ignorant about the world?

I was listening to a pod cast and the interviewer remarked on how happy the interviewee always seemed to be.

The interviewee claimed that a big part of his happiness came from avoiding the headlines about culture and politics in the world.

He didn’t get caught up in other people’s drama, or allow himself to aggravated about things he could not control or impact.

Just like there are people who live for the outrage, he lived to ignore all that causes the outrage.

Focus on What Matters

What mattered to him? He son, mom, friends, work buddies…the people in his life.

The people he could help, and who bring him a smile each day.

This all makes sense…right.

Those are the things that matter to him. Things that are real and he can be part of.

What do you consider important?

How does it impact your emotional life?

When you train today, will you feel better or no different when done?

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Finding ways To Thrive

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Thrive Your Way

Looking for ways to thrive and not just get by.

Since I started this new position I have lived to just get by.

This was a drastic change from putting most of my focus on how to be healthy through nutrition, exercise, and mentally.

All of a sudden, I was faced with the average day of my clients.

Working their butts off to make sure they performed well at their jobs and taking care of their families.

The energy needed, and even the idea of taking care of myself seems like a bit too much.

Even though I know doing that will make everything else soo much easier.

A Little Here, A Nudge There

I have been starting to nudge myself into doing things I know are a bit better for me.

Adding in a little mediation again. Trying to calm my mind to help with sleep and energy.

My nutrition needs to step it up a little more.

It seems to be a challenge just to get the grocery shopping in!

Then once the groceries are in the house, taking the time to make something to eat is a different challenge.

I do pretty well with breakfast, as long as I have the ingredients.

Lunch is still a struggle, unless I have left-overs.

Dinner is a hit or a miss altogether.

Tonight it was “breakfast for dinner”.

Which I do like, a lot.

The desire to do more to make things change faster is real.

It is important to keep in mind that change feels a lot more taxing than coasting along on your current habits.

So keeping it simple can help keep things going.

I am not as concerned about “changing” as I am about finding a way to thrive in my current life.

Find a way to have more energy for doing the things I enjoy and being with the people I care for.

What makes you feel as if you are thriving in your life right now?

Do a little training for a bit of energy boost. Cheers!!

Yes, I want online training!

Before and After Feast Movement.

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Feast And Movement

A little bit of movement before and after a feast can help with digestion and lethargy.

For my family, today is a day of feasting. 

It starts at five and ends around seven (pm).

I already went for a longer walk today to get my circulation going and to give me a mental boost.

Movement helps me feel connected to life.

Heading into family time, it is nice to feel alive and vital.

Our body likes to move to keep our systems functioning well.

I have noticed on days when I do not walk, I have swelling in my legs.

It does not matter if I spend the day sitting, standing, or doing both.

If I do not get out and move, it appears that fluid settles in my lower half.

Old or What?

I have not really explored why this is. It it an age related new thing, or changes in diet..?

What I have noticed is that getting out for a walk, or run, helps.

The lymphatic and circulation systems need movement to work optimally.

So I am guessing it is an age thing and a shift in body composition towards less muscle.

Feast Day

On a day of feasting, having a system working at its best sounds like a good plan.

Helping with digesting a heavy meal, and possibly alcoholic beverages, alleviating the feeling of over-fullness.

Taking a little walk with loved ones between feasting and festivities can be a nice addition to a day that includes a lot of sitting.

On those days, the one who gets to move the most is the one making the meal.

If there are kids around, consider playing a game that includes all ages. 

“Simon Says” is a good one. As is “Follow the Leader”.

Both work as long as inclusion is your main focus.

Have fun, enjoy your day, and train just a little. Cheers!!

Yes, I want online training!

Thoughtfulness Rules

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Today, I’ve been filled with thoughtfulness…

Thoughtfulness, consideration for the needs of other people, or the state of being absorbed in thought. 

The Oxford Dictionary

It has been a week of only OK sleep and it is wearing on me.

There is a lot on my plate as well. I’m heading to Denmark on Saturday for more training, and to try and crack the nut of processes. 

My mind wanders in different directions and I start thinking about other things.

One of those thoughts is about email and thoughtfulness.

Email Thoughtfulness

There is a culture of thoughtfulness at the company where I work. It sounds nice.

In every email with a request/command, they deliver it as a question. 

You usually get either a one-word response, or exactly what you asked for.

It is very different than the last company I worked for.

If we had a request it is made as a statement, not a question.

The truth was that you needed it done.

The illusion of choice is a funny thing.

I never expect to get a “no can’t do that” when I ask my colleagues to do something.

So why are we asking?

Being Thoughtful

Does it help to create the feeling of personal autonomy?

Perhaps…

You have the power over your choices. 

Even if that, sort of, is not the case.

It is a bit sentimental and in one view, sweet and kind.

In another light, it can be a bit passive aggressive. 

Won’t you do that for me dear?

Question are not asked that way, but email is tone deaf.

So it depends on the reader and their impression.

What are your thoughts on thoughtfulness? Is stating a request as a question more thoughtful?

Ask yourself “does training make my day better?” Cheers!!

I kept finding myself zoning out and thinking about other things besides the task at hand today.

It has been a week of only OK sleep and it is wearing on me.

There is a lot on my plate as well. I’m heading to Denmark on Saturday for more training, and to try and crack the nut of processes. 

My mind wanders in different directions and I start thinking about other things.

One of those thoughts is about email and thoughtfulness.

Email Thoughtfulness

There is a culture of thoughtfulness at the company where I work.

It sounds nice!

Every email with a request/command is asked as a question. 

You usually get either a one-word response, or exactly what you asked for.

It is different from the last company I worked for.

If we had a request it was made as a statement not a question.

The truth was that you needed it done.

The illusion of choice is a funny thing.

I never expect to get a “no can’t do that” when I ask my colleagues to do something.

So why are we asking?

Being Thoughtful

Does it help to create the feeling of personal autonomy?

Perhaps…

You have the power over your choices. 

Even if that, sort of, is not the case.

It is a bit sentimental and in one view, sweet and kind.

In another light, it can be a bit passive aggressive. 

Won’t you do that for me dear?

Question are not being asked that way, but email is tone deaf.

So it depends on the reader and their impression.

What are your thoughts on thoughtfulness? Is stating a request as a question more thoughtful?

Ask yourself “does training make my day better?” Cheers!!

Yes, I want online training!

OMG What Day Is It?

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OMG For Realz

OMG, I cannot believe it is the almost the end of the week!

How the heck did that happen?

When you are in a heads-down crazy work pattern it is hard to back away.

I forced myself to go out to breakfast today.

Of course, while I was out my boss calls and I have to chat with him out on the sidewalk.

Being out for breakfast was not a problem, largely because the long intense hours I have been putting in.

The way this job was presented, on paper it was supposed to be a lot less hours and allow flexibility.

Flexibility 

Today was the first day, I got to work through some mails that I was a few days behind on.

This was a relief.

I also managed to get my agenda and schedule down on paper and sent for my upcoming trip to Denmark.

This trip is going to be my cross-over to taking on more responsibility. 

Which makes me a bit nervous. Feeling a bit spread thin as it is, I wonder what this new landscape will be like.

Managing my time, and taking me time is still an important theme.

Right Time

Is there a right time? Or, is it about taking opportunities?

Thomas is going to start running a group training class at his parkour gym soon.

It will be in the morning and I will have a ride.

My work day is supposed to start at 8, and the class ends at 8.

Just because my start and there have been a lot of 10 to 12 hour days does not mean that I get to modify regular work hours.

I will need to make some choices, and experiment a bit.

How about you? Do weeks fly by and you feel like all you did was work? How does that work for you?

Get in a bit of training to put a smile on your face. Cheers!!

Yes, I want online training!

Gather For Good times

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Good times of Gathering

Good times of gathering can be on a specific national holiday, or it can be on any regular day of the week.

It depends on what makes a gathering to you, and setting up the possibilities of good times.

When we had our brick and mortar gym, training our clients was a good time for gathering.

Sometimes we would hold special training days during a holiday, to add an hour of fun to their weekend.

They may not have seen it as an hour of fun, but they showed up so it was obviously worth their time to come hang out and get sweaty.

Holiday to Gather

Holidays, like Thanksgiving here in the US, are built around gathering of friends and family.

As I started to understand US history in school, I felt less and less like celebrating Thanksgiving.

Not because of the intent of two groups of unlike people coming together to share a meal.

Instead, it was because of what happened later and what is happening today to one group representing those people.

Harmony and happiness were not key values brought over from Europe.

Civilize and “save” in your own way seemed to be higher values than respect and accept.

Focus on Family

Now, getting together on Thanksgiving seems more of an excuse to gather as a family and it’s not really tied to religious beliefs.

I am thankful for my family and loved ones. 

Sharing a day, celebrating day, is a day I can be thankful for.

For me Thanksgiving is repurposed into a day I can live with.

I think about the people who lived here before us, had their land occupied, then marginalized.

All of us immigrants are to be “thankful” for having ancestors who cared more for land and prosperity than people.

Thankful because of how we get to live today.

There is a shadow over this life.

For me it is an image of a man in traditional Native American dress surrounded by trash with a tear rolling down his cheek.

The fact this image actually comes from TV commercial is just ironic and fitting.

We are fortunate to have opportunities to take times of gathering to reflect on the good times that we are lucky to have.

Train a little for you. Cheers!!

Yes, I want online training!

Thursday Blues, Saturday Fun

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Thursday Blues

Thursday used to be one of my favorite days. 

A day before the last day before the weekend.

Then I stopped doing work that really had “weekends”.

Now that I am back in the weekly, working saddle, Thursday is my “I am soooo tired” day.

Even after three months of working a 7-5 job. 

I am still exhausted by Thursday. 

Maybe I should tally that up. Ummm, that is 40 hours by Thursday.

No wonder I am ready for the weekend a day early!

I have the blues. The poor me, I work too much, blues.

Take Back My Week

I am contracted to work a minimum of 37 hours a week, or as busy time require.

Busy time… It seems to be all the time!

There are inefficiencies that can be worked on in processes and systems.

Those that I can control, and those that I cannot control.

Part of my blues is not having the feeling of time and space to step back and get a perspective.

Being able to see clearly how it all works together and in what areas things can work better.

Saturday Fun

My hiking buddy is going to do a Urban hike with me in the town of Golden, CO this Saturday.

I have a cousin who lives there but I have never walked around.

It will be nice to hang out and explore a new town, and sample a little beer.

Golden is the home of Coors beer and many other micro-breweries.

Not that beer is my big love, but do I enjoy a taste.

Just thinking about that lets me breathe deeper.

What gives you space to breathe a little deeper? Do you feel the need to step back and gain perspective?

Do a little training today, to make tomorrow a bit better. Cheers!!

Yes, I want online training!

Being You, Accepting You

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Notice: This Friday we will be conducting a fitness test during your workout.

Accepting Your Best and Worst

Being accepting of who you are is not so easy.

There is the group who likes to be liked. This is my group.

Then there are those who do not think they will be liked and make sure of it.

Both of them are hiding from who they really are. 

Not accepting the best of who they are, and recognizing the worst of who they are.

Being real with yourself is one of the harder things to do.

We build an identity and want to stick with it.

Switching behaviors, locations, friends can mess with this identity. 

Times like this make it easy to loose a sense of self and start reacting to the world, instead of knowing who you are and what matters to you.’

Outside Point of View

Asking a couple of people who know you in different ways can help you to build a more realistic picture of yourself.

Who do you think you share with people, and who do you actually share with people.

Is being enthusiastic about everything make you more likable, or does it make you one dimensional.

Everything can not always be great, and fantastic. For people who see you every once in awhile that can be fine.

If someone sees you more on the regular it builds a sense of unease.

We know that everyday can’t be “amazing”. It is OK that it isn’t.

Connection can happen through many shared stories that are both joyful and sad.

If everything is awful all the time, then other people know that is what you are bringing, not so much the outside world.

Little Bit of Everything

There are people and situations you would rather put on a mask and muddle through.

What would happen if you didn’t. Not sharing why things are not going your way, but sharing that you feel there not may be enough.

Today isn’t a great day. You know what? That is fine, it will pass!

Do you ever check in with others for self evaluation? If so, how does it leave you feeling?

Muddle this over during your training breaks. Hmmmm!!

Notice: This Friday we will be conducting a fitness test during your workout.

Yes, I want online training!

Figuring Things Out

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Figuring

Figuring things out is a way to get things done, take action.

Last weekend I went to a local shop and picked up a little gift for our new niece and her mama.

I  have a plan on what to get the dad, but then I have to mail it.

It is not like I have not mailed a package before.

I know the package will end up costing more than the stuff.

Because I have mailed stuff before.

I do not know where to mail this package from.

So I have got to figure it out and get it off my table.

Tools of Figuring

By far the most popular tool to find out how to do stuff is Google.

Write in what you need and out comes the knowledge you need to get it done.

Of course you have to be able to understand what it is telling you.

Having taken a course or two on-line that is not always an easy accomplishment.

When Thomas and I were a young couple, we navigated a long distance relationship through mail.

We mailed each other a letter every week.

Packages were less often, but still a regular occurrence.

I am out of practice, and the world has changed.

There are more ways to mail a package, and different prices to pay.

Finding The Learning Energy

For me, my days are long and I am low on energy by the time I get free.

Then even typing into google what I need seems like a bigger step than I can take.

Learning takes a bit of energy. I think I will go take a nap, then try and find the post office, UPS store, FedEx store, or the nearest seagull.

Training starts with your brain. Cheers!!

Yes, I want online training!